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Divorce and Family Law Frequently Asked Questions

Welcome to the Divorce and Family Law FAQs from the Law Office of Shelly M. Ingram. Here, you’ll find answers to common questions about divorce, child custody, child support, and other family law matters in Maryland. Our goal is to provide clear, reliable information to help you feel more informed and confident as you navigate your legal situation.

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  • Guardianship

    • How do I know if my parent or another adult needs a guardian in Maryland?

      Needing help does not necessarily mean someone needs a guardian. Maryland courts look at whether the person can make or communicate responsible decisions and whether a less restrictive option can adequately protect the person's welfare and safety. The important questions are what decisions the person is having difficulty making, what is still working, and what legal authority is actually missing. Sometimes guardianship is necessary. In other cases, a power of attorney, advance directive, existing support, or another less restrictive arrangement may be enough.

    • What is the difference between guardianship of the person and guardianship of the property?

      A guardian of the person may be appointed to make personal decisions involving matters such as health care, living arrangements, care, and support. A guardian of the property manages financial affairs or property when someone is unable to do so effectively and has assets, income, benefits, or other property requiring management. A person may need one type of guardianship but not the other - or may need both. The appropriate structure depends on what decisions need to be made and what authority is actually missing.

    • Does having dementia or another diagnosis automatically mean someone needs a guardian?

      No. A diagnosis alone does not establish the need for guardianship. Maryland law focuses on the person's ability to make or communicate responsible decisions and whether a less restrictive alternative is available. Two people with the same diagnosis may have very different abilities and support systems. The question is not simply what is the diagnosis? It is what can this person still do, what help is needed, and what legal authority is necessary?

    • Do I need medical evidence to obtain adult guardianship in Maryland?

      Yes. An adult guardianship petition generally must be supported by evaluations from qualifying health care professionals. Those evaluations help the court assess the person's capacity and the need for guardianship. Maryland has specific requirements concerning who may perform the evaluations and when they must occur. If you are considering guardianship, it can be helpful to speak with an attorney before asking health care providers to complete court paperwork so that you understand what the proceeding requires.

    • Does the person who may need a guardian have a lawyer?

      Yes. An adult guardianship proceeding affects significant individual rights. The person alleged to need a guardian is entitled to legal representation and, if necessary, the court generally appoints an attorney to represent that person. That lawyer represents the person who may need a guardian - not the petitioner or the family as a whole. Even when family members believe everyone is pursuing the same result, guardianship is a court proceeding concerning another person's legal rights.

    • Who gets priority to be appointed guardian in Maryland?

      Maryland law establishes an order of priority for appointment as guardian of the person. It includes people such as someone previously nominated by the individual, a health care agent, a spouse, parents, children, certain other relatives, and other appropriate persons or agencies. Priority does not guarantee appointment. The court can consider the circumstances and whether the proposed guardian is appropriate. When family members disagree about who should serve, the issue may become part of a contested guardianship proceeding.

    • Can a Maryland court appoint a limited guardian instead of taking away all of someone's decision-making authority?

      Yes. Guardianship does not have to be all-or-nothing. Maryland law permits the court to give a guardian only the authority necessary to address the person's demonstrated needs. A person may need assistance with some decisions while remaining capable of making others. A limited guardianship can therefore provide needed protection while preserving decision-making authority the individual can continue to exercise.

    • What happens after someone is appointed guardian?

      Appointment is the beginning of the guardian's legal responsibilities, not the end of the case. A guardian must act within the authority granted by the court and remains subject to court oversight. Guardians of the person generally have ongoing reporting obligations, while guardians of property have financial reporting and accounting responsibilities. Guardianship can later be reviewed, modified, or terminated when circumstances warrant. Becoming a guardian creates an ongoing legal responsibility, not simply authority to make decisions.

    • When does a child need a guardian in Maryland?

      A Maryland court may appoint a guardian of the person of a minor when the legal requirements are met and the appointment is in the child's best interests. Guardianship may be appropriate when another adult needs legal authority to care for a child or when a child has property that requires management. The important question is what legal authority is needed and why. Depending on the circumstances, the appropriate proceeding may be guardianship, custody, or another legal arrangement.

    • What is the difference between guardianship and custody of a child?

      Guardianship and custody can both involve responsibility for a child, but they arise under different Maryland laws and are not interchangeable. A custody case generally concerns rights and responsibilities under Maryland family law. Guardianship is a separate court process that can give a guardian legal authority over the child's person, property, or both. Which process is appropriate depends on the child's circumstances, the relationships involved, and the authority that is actually needed.

    • Does appointing a guardian terminate the parents' rights?

      No. Appointment of a guardian of the person of a minor does not itself require termination of the parents' parental rights. That distinction can be important when a family needs another adult to have legal authority to care for a child but the goal is not to sever the child's relationship with a parent. The particular rights and responsibilities involved will depend on the guardianship order and the family's circumstances.

    • Can a child need a guardian of property even if the parents are caring for the child?

      Yes. Guardianship of a child's property is different from guardianship of the child's person. A minor may need someone with legal authority to manage money or property belonging to the child even when the parents continue to provide day-to-day care. This can arise when a child receives an inheritance, settlement proceeds, insurance proceeds, or other significant assets.

    • Does a child have a say in who becomes the guardian?

      Age matters. Maryland law gives older minors a formal role in designating a proposed guardian in certain circumstances, although the court retains responsibility for determining whether the appointment satisfies Maryland law and the child's best interests. A child's preference can therefore matter, but it does not by itself determine the outcome.

    • What happens if a parent objects to someone becoming the child's guardian?

      A parent's objection can significantly change the nature of the case. The proceeding may involve disputed facts about the child's circumstances, the proposed guardian, parental involvement, and whether guardianship is the appropriate legal process at all. Depending on the circumstances, the dispute may also overlap with Maryland custody law. That is one reason it is important to identify the correct legal proceeding before deciding how to move forward.

    • What if my siblings and I disagree about whether our parent needs a guardian?

      Family members do not have to agree before someone can ask a Maryland court to establish guardianship. If there is disagreement, the court considers the evidence concerning the person's capacity, the decisions they can and cannot make, the support already available, and whether a less restrictive alternative is sufficient. Sometimes the real disagreement is not whether a parent needs help, but how much help is needed and who should provide it.

    • What happens if family members disagree about who should serve as guardian?

      The court ultimately decides who should serve. Maryland law establishes priorities for appointment, but priority does not automatically determine the outcome in every case. These disputes can become highly personal. Where possible, we look for ways to separate the person's actual needs from the family conflict and determine whether some areas of disagreement can be resolved without litigating every issue.

    • Can I object to someone else's guardianship petition?

      Yes. A person entitled to participate in the guardianship proceeding may challenge issues such as whether guardianship is necessary, the scope of the proposed guardianship, or who should be appointed. An objection does not necessarily mean every part of the petition must be contested. In some cases, the parties agree that assistance is needed but disagree about the appropriate guardian or the extent of authority that should be granted.

    • Can a guardian be removed or replaced in Maryland?

      Yes. Appointment as guardian is not necessarily permanent. A Maryland court can address concerns about a guardian's performance and, when appropriate, remove or replace a guardian. Concerns may arise because a guardian is no longer able or willing to serve, is failing to perform required duties, or because interested persons believe the guardian is not acting appropriately. The focus should remain on whether the existing arrangement is working for the person the guardianship was created to protect.

    • What can I do if I believe a guardian is misusing money or not acting appropriately?

      Guardians are subject to court oversight and must act within the authority given to them. If there are legitimate concerns about a guardian's conduct, the court has authority to review the guardianship and take appropriate action. The right response depends on the concern. A missed report, disagreement over a care decision, and suspected misuse of assets are very different problems and may require different legal responses.

    • Can a guardianship be changed or ended?

      Yes. A guardianship can be modified or terminated when circumstances change. A person's abilities may improve, a different level of assistance may become appropriate, or circumstances may otherwise affect the need for the existing guardianship. The fact that guardianship was necessary at one point does not mean that the same level of court-ordered authority must continue indefinitely. The legal structure should continue to fit the person's actual needs.

    • Does having a power of attorney prevent the need for guardianship?

      It can, but not always. A properly prepared power of attorney may give an agent authority to manage financial or legal matters, while an advance directive may provide authority for a health care agent to make medical decisions. If those documents provide the authority that is needed and the chosen agents can act, guardianship may not be necessary. Guardianship can still become necessary if the documents do not address the problem, the agent cannot serve, or a dispute develops.

    • What is the difference between a power of attorney and guardianship?

      The biggest difference is who chooses the decision-maker and when. With a power of attorney, you choose an agent and decide what authority to give that person while you have capacity to make those choices. With guardianship, a court becomes involved after a person needs protection or decision-making assistance and determines whether guardianship is necessary, who should serve, and what authority the guardian should have. Planning ahead can preserve choices that may no longer be available after incapacity occurs.

    • When should I get a power of attorney?

      A power of attorney is generally most useful before you need someone else to act for you. An unexpected injury or medical event can create a need for someone else to handle financial or legal matters at any age. A power of attorney must be created while you have the capacity to make the necessary decisions. Planning in advance allows you to choose the person you trust and determine what authority that person should have.

    • What is an advance directive?

      An advance directive allows you to make choices about future health care decision-making. Among other things, a Maryland advance directive can allow you to name a health care agent to make medical decisions if you later become unable to make those decisions yourself. It can also communicate your wishes concerning certain types of medical care. An advance directive gives you an opportunity to decide who should speak for you and what guidance you want that person to have before a medical crisis occurs.

    • Do I need both a power of attorney and an advance directive?

      They serve different purposes. A power of attorney generally addresses financial, property, and other legal matters within the authority granted to the agent. An advance directive addresses health care decision-making and can name a health care agent. For many people, having both provides more complete incapacity planning because it addresses who can handle financial matters and who can make health care decisions if help is later needed.

    • What can I do if I believe someone is abusing a power of attorney?

      An agent acting under a power of attorney has legal responsibilities and must act within the authority provided by the document. If there are concerns about misuse of money, unauthorized transactions, or other improper conduct, Maryland law provides ways for certain people to ask a court to review issues involving the power of attorney or the agent's conduct. In some situations, concerns about the person's protection or finances may also raise the question of whether guardianship or other court intervention is necessary.

    • How long does a guardianship case take in Maryland?

      There is no single timetable for a Maryland guardianship case. Timing depends on factors such as obtaining required medical or professional evaluations, providing notice to interested persons, the court's schedule, and whether anyone objects to the guardianship or the proposed guardian. An uncontested case may proceed more efficiently than a case involving disputed capacity, competing proposed guardians, discovery, or other contested issues.

    • How much does a guardianship case cost?

      The cost of a guardianship case depends largely on its complexity. An uncontested matter will generally require less attorney time than a case involving disputed capacity, family conflict, competing proposed guardians, discovery, experts, or contested hearings. There may also be costs beyond attorney's fees, including court costs and expenses associated with medical or other professional evaluations. After learning more about the circumstances, an attorney can discuss the work the case is likely to require and the firm's anticipated retainer.

    • Can I get emergency guardianship in Maryland?

      Maryland law provides procedures for situations involving a genuine emergency, but not every urgent family problem qualifies as a legal emergency. For guardianship of the person, an emergency generally involves a substantial risk of death or immediate and serious physical harm. If someone appears to be in immediate danger and guardianship may be necessary, it is important to identify both the nature of the emergency and the legal authority that is actually needed.

    • Do I need an attorney to file for guardianship in Maryland?

      Maryland provides court forms and information for people seeking guardianship, and a petitioner is not always required to have an attorney. Guardianship proceedings can nevertheless involve significant legal and procedural requirements. An attorney can help determine whether guardianship is the appropriate proceeding in the first place, prepare and present the case, and address objections or other issues that arise.

    • Do I need my own attorney if someone else has already filed a guardianship case?

      It depends on your role and what is disputed. The person alleged to need an adult guardian is entitled to legal representation, and that attorney represents that individual - not the family as a whole. Other family members or interested persons may want separate counsel if they intend to challenge whether guardianship is necessary, object to the proposed guardian, seek appointment themselves, or raise concerns about the requested authority. Multiple people can participate in the same proceeding while having very different legal interests.

  • Working with Our Firm

    • What is a retainer?

      A retainer is an amount specified in your Attorney-Client Agreement that you pay in advance of services performed. Throughout your case, any costs for work conducted will be deducted from your retainer. You may be asked to replenish your retainer during your case or, if your case is resolved before all funds are used from you retainer, any unearned amount will be returned to you.

    • Why is a paralegal working on my case?
      By bringing a paralegal in to assist with your case, we are able to save you money on tasks like conducting legal research, drafting certain pleadings, or examining and organizing documents relevant to your case. A paralegal is not able to give you legal advice, but does work closely with the attorney to handle tasks efficiently.
    • Why do I need a consultation?
      We begin the process with a one-hour consultation to better understand your personal circumstances. By doing so, we are able to offer you more specific information regarding the facts of your case and answer in-depth questions about the process moving forward. Also, you can think of the consultation as an interview – you want to make sure that the attorney you hire to handle such important personal matters is the right fit for you.
    • If I already have an attorney, can I hire a new attorney?
      In short, yes. Your needs may change throughout your legal case so you may feel it necessary to seek new representation. There are a few methods of changing attorneys, all of which we would be happy to discuss with you.
    • What type of financial documents should I keep?
      Documentation is an important part of any legal case. You should maintain records of tax returns, bank statements, credit card statements, retirement statements, pay stubs, bonus or commission statements, mortgage statements, money market account statements, insurance costs, and household bills. This list is not exhaustive; you may be asked to provide many other types of financial documentation.
    • Do I get to choose which attorney I work with?
      We pride ourselves on our team approach to assisting you with your family matter. Our approach is designed not only to ensure that there is always an attorney available and familiar with your case, but also to maximize efficiency. That being said, if you feel more comfortable with one of our attorneys over another, we will do our best to accommodate your requests. All firm cases are supervised by Ms. Ingram.
    • How often do I need to meet with my attorney in-person?
      It is important to meet with your attorney and prepare prior to any court appointments, mediations, depositions, etc., but there may be a time lag between those meetings. We welcome the opportunity to meet with you (virtually, telephonically, or in person) as often as needed and to ensure that your questions are being answered throughout the process. We prefer face to face communication with our clients, even when virtual, as we believe face to face is the most effective form of communication.
    • Do I have to live in Maryland to hire you?
      No, you do not need to live in Maryland to hire us. We represent clients that reside throughout the United States and abroad, when they have cases to be heard in Maryland Courts. If you do not live in Maryland, we can work with you via telephone and/or video calls. We are largely paperless and will also communicate with you via e-mail and through our cloud-based client portal. We strive for excellent communication with our clients, be they local or long-distance, and we will do our best to tailor our communication style to your needs.
    • What payment methods can I use?
      We accept cash, checks, cashier’s checks, and money orders. We accept all major credit cards.
    • What happens during the consultation?
      The consultation is your time and we will tailor our work to your needs. Generally, the attorney will begin by asking you some standard questions to identify relevant issues to be addressed during your consultation. The attorney will gather information from you and educate you about the law and process options best calculated to lead to your desired outcome. You will be given an opportunity to ask questions throughout, or at the end, to gain a deeper understanding. If there are any relevant documents or court records for your case, the attorney may review those documents to answer your questions and identify additional issues to be discussed. We will not follow-up with you after your consultation, and will wait to hear from you if/when you are ready to retain our firm.
    • What if I share an email address with my spouse?
      Our firm is largely paperless. While we often communicate with clients and share documents through email, we can handle business by telephone or regular mail, if necessary. Our clients are provided with a Clio client portal where they can access e-mails and other documents. Your client portal does require a secure e-mail address. We recommend that clients obtain a personal, individual email address and make sure that all of your passwords are secure.
    • Once I hire an attorney, do I have to do anything else?
      Hiring an attorney is an important first step. While we will work diligently on your behalf, you will also have required tasks to support our efforts. You will be asked to review and provide input on our written work, as well as the case strategy we develop for you. Your attorney may give you “homework”, depending on where you are in the process. Your active participation in all stages of your case will save your attorney time and as a result, it will also reduce your legal fees. No one knows the facts of your case and the needs of your children, better than you.
    • When do you close my case?
      In general, we will close our internal office case file once we confirm that you have personally received any final orders, agreements, or necessary documentation. When we close your client file, we will issue a final invoice and a refund of any unearned retainer. If, for any reason, you feel it is more appropriate to keep your case open with our firm because of your particular situation (for example: on-going child custody concerns), that is also an option.
    • What happens when you close my case?
      All notes, pleadings, documentation provided by you, and other such items will be kept in our digital files. We will return any original documents to you, if we have not done so already, and we will take the appropriate actions to destroy any remaining documents that we are not required to keep. Upon your request, we will provide you with an electronic copy of your closed client file.
  • Separation Agreements

    • What is legal separation?

      Many clients are interested in obtaining a "legal separation." In Maryland, you cannot petition the court for a legal separation. You and your spouse can sign a contractual document or separation agreement that states that the two of you have agreed that you can live as though you are unmarried, which would be the equivalent of a contractual separation.

      The court will consider you to be married until they have granted you a divorce.

      The Courts have changed grounds for divorce in Maryland, which now includes irreconcilable differences. As of October 1, 2023, you no longer have to live in a separate home from your spouse. Previously couples were required to live in separate residences for a period of a year or more to be qualify for a divorce in Maryland.

    • Why do I need a separation agreement?
      Depending upon the circumstances of your case, you may need to be physically separated for up to 12 months before you obtain a final divorce. During this time, while living apart, a separation agreement can act as a legally binding document that directs the course of your financial conduct, both during separation and afterwards. Financially, a separation agreement can apportion marital assets and preserve assets that are non-marital. If you and your spouse own real property, a separation agreement can provide for the sale of a marital home and payment of the mortgage and other household expenses while the property is listed for sale. In cases involving children, a separation agreement can define your parental rights, clarify holiday access schedules, and set forth guidelines for important parental decision-making.
    • What happens to my Separation Agreement at the time of my divorce?
      Following your divorce hearing, the court will enter a Judgment of Absolute Divorce, which incorporates the terms of your Separation Agreement, but does not merge the document into the final Judgment. This means that your Separation Agreement will continue to exist as a distinct legal contract following your divorce. The significance of this distinction is in the enforcement of your Agreement. If your spouse does not follow the terms of your Agreement, you may seek enforcement of the Agreement through contractual remedies, or request that the court hold your spouse in contempt of a court order.
    • Can my spouse set aside our Separation Agreement?
      Your spouse cannot set aside your Separation Agreement solely on the basis that they have become dissatisfied with the agreed upon terms. When you and your spouse entered into the Separation Agreement, you signed a contract. To set aside the terms of your agreement (a contract), your spouse must show that their consent to enter into the contract was secured by means of duress, fraud, or undue influence.
    • What is included in a separation agreement?
      Whether through mediation, while involved in litigation, or through the Collaborative process, you and your spouse can negotiate a separation agreement and be as creative as needed to address all the unique issues related to dissolution of your marriage. What can be, and what should be, included in your separation agreement is best determined on a case-by-case basis. It is important to seek the independent advice of an experienced attorney when considering entering into a separation agreement.
  • Prenuptial Agreements

    • Do I need a prenuptial agreement?
      While it is not required that you have a premarital agreement, many people with premarital assets or children from a prior relationship, consider a prenup to avoid the legal and financial uncertainty that a death or divorce may cause in the future.
    • Are the terms of a prenuptial agreement predetermined?
      Not necessarily. While it is common for one party to enlist the services of an attorney to draft a prenuptial agreement, the content may not be acceptable to both. In many cases, a draft prenuptial agreement is nothing more than a starting point for communication. The contents of a prenuptial agreement are fact specific and should be tailored to meet the future needs of both parties to an agreement. Many couples participate in premarital mediation, negotiation, or collaboration to agree upon terms to be incorporated in a prenuptial agreement. If you are presented with a prenuptial agreement, it is important to have the agreement reviewed by an experienced attorney, who can explain your legal rights.
    • Can a couple work together to create a prenuptial agreement?
      Absolutely. There are many ways that couples can work cooperatively to create a prenuptial agreement. During premarital mediation with the guidance of a neutral mediator, engaged couples can discuss a variety of marital issues that may cause difficulties in the future. For example, premarital mediation can be used to reach agreements regarding the expectation for financial support, saving and spending styles, and even property division in the event of divorce or death.
    • What types of things can be included in a prenuptial agreement?
      Prenuptial agreements are fact and asset specific, so they vary on a case-by-case basis. Prenuptial agreements may include provisions for the disposition of assets acquired before and during marriage, including: real property, bank accounts, automobiles, valuable personal property and retirement assets. The ability to be self-supporting and the availability or need for alimony may also be addressed in a prenup. While there are some things that cannot be included in a valid prenuptial agreement, the list of things that can be included is quite extensive.
    • Can a prenuptial agreement contract for child custody?
      No. While a prenuptial agreement is designed to be protection from the legal consequences of divorce or death, there are certain things that cannot be predetermined. A prenuptial agreement cannot contract for the custody of children, especially children that have not yet been born. It is also impossible for a prenup to prearrange how much a parent will pay for child support.
  • Mediation

    • What is mediation?
      Mediation is another form of dispute resolution, whereby a neutral third-party (the mediator), assists parties in negotiating a settlement.
    • What are the benefits of mediation?
      Mediation can be a cost-effective alternative to litigation. With meditation, the details of your case do not become a public record, and it is easier for you to manage the disclosure of confidential financial information, as well as the underlying causes for the breakdown of your marriage. Mediation allows you to take control over the outcomes in your case. In custody cases, mediation can be especially helpful, because it creates positive momentum between parents as they continue to cooperate with one another for the benefit of their children.
    • How long does mediation take?
      The number of mediation sessions required to reach an agreement depends on a number of factors. These include your ability to listen and communicate, as well as to follow the direction of your mediator. Each mediation session is typically scheduled for two hours, with the first session dedicated to explaining the process, setting ground rules, and gathering information. In our experience, if everyone commits to the mediation process, most cases will settle in five sessions or fewer.
    • What is the role of the mediator?
      The mediator is completely neutral in the mediation in process. The mediator’s role is to help resolve disputes by guiding the decision-making process without advocating for either side. Mediators are required to adhere to the Maryland Standard of Conduct for Mediators.
    • Can the mediator make any decisions for the parties?
      The mediator cannot make decisions for the parties, nor can the mediator give any legal, financial, or any other specialized advice. The mediator assists the parties in making decisions by guiding discussions in a neutral manner.
    • Is mediation confidential?
      All mediations are confidential and the mediator cannot be called as a witness in any administrative or judicial proceedings. Maryland law allows for disclosures under certain circumstances, including when it isnecessary to prevent bodily harm or death.
    • What kinds of topics can be resolved through mediation?
      Any type of conflict can be resolved in mediation. Mediators can help resolve a variety of family law matters from premarital issues to custody and child support, alimony, and even the division of marital property and debt.
    • Do I need a consultation for mediation?

      A consultation for mediation is not required, but can be accommodated if it would be helpful to you. Much of what would be discussed in a consultation for mediation can be discussed in your first mediation session.

  • Marital Property

    • What is marital property?
      Marital property is any property acquired by you or your spouse during your marriage that is not received by inheritance, gift from a third party, excluded by valid agreement, or directly traceable to any of these sources.
    • How is marital property divided?
      In Maryland, marital property is subject to equitable distribution.
    • What does "equitable distribution" mean?

      In Maryland divorce, marital property is subject to equitable distribution. This is not the same as a 50-50 division of property, although in many cases 50-50 is an equitable result. If the court is asked to divide your marital property they will evaluate a number of factors to determine what is "equitable" in your case, in no particular order, these factors include:

      1. Length of marriage.
      2. Age of each party.
      3. Health (physical and mental) of each party.
      4. How and when marital property was acquired, including the effort each party made towards acquisition.
      5. Reasons for the break-up of the marriage.
      6. Monetary and non-monetary contributions to the well-being of the family during the marriage.
      7. Value of marital property.
      8. Alimony award or award of family use personal property or use and possession of a family home.
      9. Anything that the court deems necessary or appropriate to consider to arrive at a "fair" monetary award or transfer of property.
    • What is a monetary award?
      In some cases, it is impossible for the court to divide marital property. For example, if your family has one car, the court cannot equitably divide a car and preserve it as a useful asset for both parties. You can't cut a car in half and still drive it. A monetary award may be granted in divorce as a way to equalize the value of assets that can't otherwise be divided.
    • Are gifts that my spouse gave me during our marriage marital property?
      If the gift was purchased during your marriage with income that was earned while married, then the gift may be marital property.
    • Is the engagement ring marital property?

      In most cases, an engagement ring is a gift purchased by a spouse and gifted to the other prior to marriage. If an engagement ring was purchased and gifted prior to marriage, then it may be non-marital property.

      It is important to evaluate the source of funds used to purchase property and the date of acquisition to determine whether or not property is marital.

    • Is property titled in my own name non-marital, for example: individual bank accounts and retirement assets?
      Property that was acquired during the marriage, even though titled in your own name, may be marital. As with most questions about marital property, this is not something that should be left to guess work. At the Law Office of Shelly M. Ingram, we are familiar with marital property issues and we can help you evaluate what property is marital; how your property may be divided in the event of divorce or separation; and when it is necessary to take additional action to protect your interest in property that is non-marital.
    • What happens to property that I acquire after my spouse and I separate?
      Until you are actually divorced, all property that you and your spouse acquire is marital property, regardless of whether you have already separated and regardless of title. All income you earn after your separation and all personal or real property you acquire with marital funds, will be factored into the court’s determination as to the value and character of marital property. If you are separated from your spouse and acquiring property, then you may first want to consider a Separation Agreement to shield any property acquired between your separation and divorce.
    • If I move out, do I lose my interest in our home?
      If you and your spouse own real property, then your decision to move out of the property, whatever the circumstances may be, does not surrender your interest in the property. Your spouse cannot sell or otherwise dispose of jointly owned real property without your consent, and the court will include the real property in its valuation of your marital property even if you have moved out.
    • Can I change the locks if my spouse moves out?
      If you and your spouse are jointly titled on the deed to your home, then you both retain a legal right to entry and use of the home. Your spouse’s decision to move out does not surrender or terminate those legal rights. While you may have legal authority to change the locks, your spouse may do so as well to regain entry. If you believe that your spouse presents an imminent threat to your safety or the safety of your children, then it may be time to consider seeking a protective order.
  • Domestic Violence

    • What is domestic violence?
      Domestic violence is any pattern of abusive behavior that is used to gain control over an intimate partner or family member. Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, or economic abuse suffered at the hands of a spouse, a former spouse, or person with whom you have had a sexual relationship, if that person has lived with you for at least 90 days out of the last year.
    • What is abuse?
      Just like people may not realize they are victims of domestic violence, people often don't recognize abuse. Abuse is any physical act that causes bodily harm, assault in any degree, rape or sexual offenses, false imprisonment, and stalking, but abuse is also any act or threat of action that causes a person to fear that they are in imminent danger of bodily harm. You do not have to be physically abused to be a victim of domestic violence. Domestic violence does not discriminate. You do not need to live in fear. When the Courts are closed or you are unable to speak with a lawyer, you can still file for a protective order or a peace order with the District Court Commissioner. A District Court Commissioner is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
    • What is a peace order?
      Like a protective order, a peace order is a civil order that protects a person from abuse and domestic violence. Your eligibility to ask the court to issue a protective order is determined by your relationship to the alleged abuser. Peace orders typically apply to people who have casual, non-family relationship, for example: co-workers, neighbors, dating, and strangers.
  • Divorce

    • What are the grounds for divorce in Maryland?

      In Maryland, there are three grounds for divorce as of October 1, 2023. They are:

      1. Mutual Consent
      2. 6-Month Separation
      3. Irreconcilable Differences
    • How long does it take to get a divorce?

      How long it takes to get a divorce depends on a number of things, including:

      1. Your grounds for divorce.
      2. Where you live, where your spouse lives or works, and where you file suit.
      3. The number of disputed issues in your case.

      If you have a contested case, with no custody issues, on average it takes a minimum of twelve months from the date you first filed to obtain an absolute divorce.

    • What is a protective order?
      A protective order is a civil order that protects a person from abuse and domestic violence. Your eligibility to ask the court to issue a protective order is determined by your relationship to the alleged abuser. Protective orders typically apply to people in intimate relationships, people who are related, and people that have a child in common.
  • Custody

    • What is child custody?
      In Maryland, child custody is a blanket term that includes "legal custody," which has to do with decision making for a child, and "physical custody," which has to do with where a child actually lives.
    • What is the difference between legal custody and physical custody?

      Legal custody has to do with the way parents make decisions about a child's education, religious training, discipline, medical care, and any other important matters that might effect a child's general well-being.

      Physical custody is more straightforward and has to do with the physical care of a child; where the child will live and sleep.

    • Is it easier for mothers to get custody than it is for fathers?
      The law does not favor mothers over fathers. The court applies the same gender-neutral factors in all child custody cases.
    • How is custody determined?
      The court applies the "best interests of the child" standard when making custody decisions, and must consider the following factors: The "fitness" of the parents to have custody. The character and reputation of the parties. The desire of the natural parents and any agreements between them. The ability to maintain natural family relations. The preference of the child -- when the child is of sufficient age and capacity to form a rational judgment. Material opportunities affecting the future life of the child. The age, health, sex of the child. The suitability of the residences of the parents, and whether the non-custodial parent will have the opportunity to visit. How long the child has been separated for the parent who is seeking custody. The effect of any prior voluntary abandonment or surrender of custody of a child.
    • How do Maryland courts decide if joint custody is appropriate?

      In joint custody cases, Maryland courts apply the following additional factors to determine if joint custody is in a child's best interest:

      • Willingness of each parent to share custody.
      • Psychological and physical "fitness" of each parent.
      • Strength of relationship of child to each parent.
      • Potential disruption of shared physical custody upon a child's social and school life.
      • Geographic proximity of the parents' homes.
      • Demands of parents employment
      • Age and number of children involved.
      • Sincerity (motivation) of parent's requests.
      • Financial status of parents.
      • Impact on state or federal assistance.
      • Benefit to parents.
      • Other factors, as appropriate on a case-by-case basis.
    • Can child custody be modified?
      Child custody can always be modified based upon a change in circumstances and the best interests of the child.
  • Collaborative Divorce

    • What is collaborative?
      Collaborative is alternative dispute process that can be used to resolve family matters out of court and with the assistance of a professional team. As part of the collaborative process, both parties retain their own attorneys. Both parties and their counsel sign a collaborative participation agreement that requires a commitment to transparency and to resolve matters out of court.
    • How does collaborative work?
      The Collaborative process typically starts when one or both parties consult with a collaboratively trained attorney. With the help of their attorneys, the parties may select additional professionals to be party of a collaborative team. Additional professionals include Financial Neutrals, Divorce Coaches, and Child Specialists. Each member of the Collaborative team must sign a Collaborative participation agreement, which requires 100% disclosure of all material facts, mutual respect, sharing of experts and information, and most importantly, a pledge to keep the matter out of court. The end-goal of Collaborative is to reach an amicable and mutually acceptable solution.
    • Is Collaborative divorce faster than going to Court?
      While there is no set timeline for a traditional or a Collaborative divorce, there is a tendency for Collaborative to take less time. While each family situation is different, Collaborative provides a forward-looking, problem-solving approach, as opposed to litigation which often requires focusing on the past and assigning blame.
    • Is a Collaborative better for children?
      Divorce is difficult on children no matter the process. collaborative divorce can help ease the burden. Because it’s a very client-centered process, the needs of children are emphasized and prioritized in Collaborative. Many times the Collaborative team includes a child specialist, which is a licensed mental health professional trained to help parents and professionals focus on the developmental needs and feelings of children and develop a co-parenting plan designed to meet those needs.
  • Child Support

    • What is child support?
      Child support is a financial obligation, shared by both parents, to contribute towards the financial support a minor child until the child reaches age 18, or until the child reaches age 19, if the child is still enrolled in high school.
    • How is child support determined in Maryland?
      In Maryland, if your combined household income (before taxes) is less than $30,000 per month (as of July 1, 2022), then child support is calculated pursuant to the Maryland Child Support Guidelines. The Maryland Child Support Guidelines take into consideration each parent's actual income, the cost of work-related child care expenses, extraordinary medical expenses, health insurance, school and transportation costs, and the amount of time a child spends in the care of each parent.
    • Can child support be modified?
      Child support can always be modified based upon changed financial circumstances and the best interests of the child.
  • Alimony

    • What is alimony?
      Alimony is financial support that is paid by one spouse or received by another to help maintain the standards of living that were established during the marriage, or to assist a financially dependent spouse in his or her efforts to become self-supporting.
    • How do I know if I will get alimony?

      Eligibility for alimony is determined on a case-by-case basis and the court must consider a number of different factors, including:

      • Do you have the ability to become self-supporting?
      • How much time is needed for you to complete the education or additional training necessary to be self-supporting?
      • What standards of living were established during the marriage?
      • How long was the marriage?
      • Have you made monetary and non-monetary contributions to the well-being of the family?
      • Why did the marriage break-up?
      • How old are you? How old is your spouse?
      • How is your health (physical and mental)? How is your spouse's health?
      • Can your spouse afford to pay alimony?
      • Are there any agreements between you and your spouse?
      • What are your financial needs and resources? What are your spouse's financial needs and resources?

      Read our recent blog for more information: How Do I Know If I Will Get Alimony in my Maryland Divorce?

    • How much alimony will I get?
      There are no standardized alimony guidelines in Maryland. If you are eligible for alimony, the amount you will get (both how much and for how long) will be determined by evaluating the same eligibility factors outlined above.